Zhihong Xie

About Hugs

synopsis

Struggling with the simple act of hugging, a filmmaker begins a personal journey to explore the emotional weight behind physical closeness. As he confronts his own discomfort and listens to others’ stories, he gradually shifts his perspective—from wanting to be hugged, to choosing to give one.

director’s statement

For over two decades of my life, hugging was almost absent from my everyday experience. I had grown used to its absence—both in daily interactions and within my family. But when I left China to study abroad, the loneliness and cultural contrast made me notice how naturally people around me embraced one another. I found myself longing to join in, yet feeling awkward and powerless.

This film is my attempt to move closer. At first, I tried to understand my resistance by looking into my family history, but I soon realized that knowing the reasons wasn’t enough to bring change. So I turned outward—listening to how others relate to the act of hugging. Kris shared how he slowly opened up to physical closeness after arriving in this city, in a way that mirrored my own journey. Han, on the other hand, spoke about the pain of being denied a hug, revealing the silent hurt that can linger in its absence.

Making this film was also a process of shifting perspective. I began by wondering how I could be hugged, but slowly came to realize that maybe someone else was waiting for a hug from me. When I finally found the courage to reach out, I understood that hugging is more than a gesture—it is a way of expressing emotion, offering support, and building trust.

I hope this film invites viewers to rediscover the emotional power of a hug and reclaim the chances to express what was once left unsaid. Hugging isn’t something we’re born knowing how to do—but I believe it’s something we can learn, simply because we all need it.

Documentary 《Peas》

In Beijing’s Chaoyang District, Pea’s Coffee & Bar was a rare women- and minority-friendly haven. This film captures its warmth, resilience, and the fight to keep such a refuge alive until its closure in December 2023.

Directed, Filmed, Edited by Zhihong Xie